"Women are like golf courses," writes sex educator Lou Paget. "Even though you may have played a course a hundred times, chances are your approach shot rarely lands in the same place on the green." How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure was written for men who want to please women. Much of the book focuses on foreplay (Paget comments that we need to rename it) designed to "excite both her mind and her body." The author offers a variety of strategies for romancing and relaxing a woman and making her feel comfortable. If you don't, she claims, "nothing you can do can rev her engine". Then she describes ways of "kissing her, touching her, and teasing her." Paget includes "a topographical guide" of a woman's body, starting with the sensual areas of the head and face and moving down. She describes ways to massage, caress, lick, kiss, and otherwise excite all these regions. She also discusses lubricants ("slippery, slidy, marvelous stuff"), condoms, manual stimulation, "the art of tongue," sex toys, and a variety of positions (clearly illustrated) for everything you might do. The book is in no way formulaic--in fact, Paget continually stresses that some women love having a particular body part touched in a certain way, while others can't stand it. Whether you're a novice or consider yourself sexually sophisticated, you'll learn plenty from Paget. --Joan Price

From Library Journal
Paget's How To Be a Great Lover (LJ 1/99) was a unique and useful sex manual for women about men. Now this "sexpert" is back to tell men how to arouse women-stressing the best and most versatile uses of hands and mouth. Having spent the last seven years giving sexuality seminars and working as an AIDS volunteer, she quite appropriately places sager sex advice upfront, in Chapter 2. Her discussion of intercourse positions is complete and concise, and she includes a good chapter on sex toys. Her organized approach, good illustrations, and judicious use of metaphors (women are like hockey, with shooting and scoring) should appeal to men. Heartily recommended for public libraries.